9 Tips for a Successful Photo Session with Children

We all know that family photos are so important but actually having a successful session with children, no matter their age does take some preparation and there really is an art to getting it right.

Here is my checklist of things that go a long way to ensuring your photo session is a success and that you get the images you have your heart set on.

1. Book your session for when you know your child will be awake and happy. 

Booking your session at a time when you child normally takes a nap is a recipe for disaster. Early morning sessions normally go much better than afternoon sessions. Make the effort to schedule the session around your children and it will be so worth it.

The perfect family photo! This mum just loves this photo because it captures exactly what her son is like.

2. Feed your child before the session. 

Also, pack something to drink during the session. I do not recommend bringing along snacks as once you have taken them out of the bag you will not get them back and we will have sticky faces and fingers.

3. Bring more than one outfit. 

Make sure you always have backup clothes just in case. I suggest dressing your child just before you get in the car and after they have had all food and drink. 

4. Let your child help when picking out their clothes for the session 

By letting your child wear his favourite shirt or shoes will help him feel more comfortable. If his choice of clothing is awful or doesn’t match, see if you can use that shirt as an undershirt or tell him he can put it on for a couple of shots at the end of the session. You can also bring along the outfit you really would like your child to wear and I'll convince them to put it on.

5. Have a bribe in place. 

This one is a little more tricky. The key is to not tell your child what the bribe is. Let me know what you are planning so I can use it when I need to during the session. Often if you tell little ones up front what the bribe is they cannot wait that long to get it and they start to get restless.

 6. Bring along her favorite toy or blanket. 

This will help your child be comfortable in a new and unfamiliar surrounding. Just be aware that this will probably become a prop in some of the photos, so bring something that is pleasing to the eyes or has sentimental value and you’d be okay with photos of it.

7. Talk to your child about the session and explain what’s going to happen.

If your child is informed about the situation, it will be less scary for her when she comes to the session. Tell her that she is going to meet a new friend who is going to take some photos of her. Let her know that you’ll be there with her and that we are going to have lots of fun. We might change her clothes once or twice and ask her to sit a certain way. During the session I will show her a couple of the photos so she can put two and two together.

8. Wear comfortable shoes. 

It is a good idea to wear comfortable shoes to a session like this, as it’s challenging to chase a little one around in flip-flops or heels. During the session, I may ask you to grab your child if he keeps running out of the frame. Or I may have us walking around exploring, so we need to be prepared to keep our feet safe and comfortable.

9. Have Fun

I have three kiddies of my own and I love working with children. Take a seat on the floor right behind me to ensure your child looks in the camera and just relax. Taking photos of children is not about having them sit still and give us a fake smile. It is about capturing the essence of who they are. That includes funny faces and then running out of the picture too.

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I hope you have a great day!

Celebrating the small things in life

My little man is eight months old and I just adore him. We've had an eventful month. He has five teeth that we all worked very hard for. He is rather a dramatic little man and kept us up many, many nights. He is also crawling and standing up against anything that will take his weight...my leg is the best.

I need sleep but I would not change our decision to adopt for the world.

I have finally figured out how to care for David's hair and for a white girl I think I've done a pretty good job. My first two attempts were somewhat frightening and lumpy in the extreme.

Have a great weekend!

Medication and Breastfeeding {an expert's advice}

I asked a friend of mine, Dorle Verrinder, to answer some common questions about breastfeeding that I often get asked. 

She has an M.Sc in Dietetics and a special interest in breastfeeding support. She completed additional paediatric modules with the British Dietetic Association, and undertook a specialist breastfeeding training course with the Association of Breastfeeding Mothers, a breastfeeding charity in England. She is a registered dietitian with the Health Professions Council of Namibia, and a member of the International Lactation Consultants Association (ILCA).

Medication and Breast Milk

If you are reading this you have probably decided you want to breastfeed, or you are already breastfeeding – congratulations! There is overwhelming evidence in the scientific literature proving the benefits of breastmilk for the baby as well as the mother, and the more and the longer you breastfeed, the more and the longer these benefits continue.

But what about medication? You may be wondering – what if I have pain of some sort, or need to take antibiotics for an infection, will I need to stop breastfeeding? What about my regular prescribed medication which I need to continue – does that mean I won’t be able to breastfeed?

The good news is that there is a wide range of medications that you can safely take while you breastfeed without harming your baby. The benefits of breastfeeding in many cases far outweigh the risks that may exist if the baby is exposed to the medication through breastmilk. Or, if a medication is known to be unsafe for the baby, there is often another medication that can be prescribed in its place.

You may have already checked information leaflets on common medications and found that it always seems to say that the medication is not suitable for breastfeeding mothers. So what does that mean?

When a medication is licensed, the manufacturer applies to get the medication licensed for treating a particular condition and a particular group of patients. If the drug is used outside its license, the person who prescribes the medication takes the responsibility. Medications are not tested on breastfeeding mothers, in fact it would be totally unethical to do so. Therefore, the manufacturers must make sure they write on the medication leaflet that the drug is not licensed for breastfeeding mothers. As a consequence, going by a manufacturer’s summary of the medication’s characteristics, very few drugs are licensed for use during breastfeeding.

However, this does not mean that these drugs are necessarily “unsafe” during breastfeeding. Few medications that pass into breastmilk reach a level that produces a therapeutic effect in the baby, and therefore it does not usually present a meaningful risk to the baby (there are exceptions of course).

To determine a drug’s safety for your breastfeeding baby, a number of factors are considered to make a judgement on whether the medication is likely to harm your baby or not. For instance, how well your baby’s body takes up the drug, how much actually passes into the milk, how the drug is metabolised (some drugs are turned inactive by the liver and are flushed out of the body with the urine without having an effect), whether your baby drinks when the drug has its highest concentration in your system which means more of the drug passes into the milk, and how much milk overall your baby is drinking.

Your baby’s age is important - in the first 3 days after birth, your breast allows more substances to pass through. Even though medication passes into the milk more easily in this period, the total volume is still low because your baby takes so little of the colostrum (30-100ml or even less per day). Also, very young babies and preterm babies have immature organs and may not be able to deal with medications as well as older babies.

Some conditions require treatment incompatible with breastfeeding, for instance, if the mother has cancer, she likely may have to stop breastfeeding for the duration of each course of treatment, because the medication may harm her baby. Medications for other conditions, like some type of painkillers or inhalers are generally safe to take meaning that likely you can continue breastfeeding as normal.

You can check the safety of specific medications during breastfeeding here: www.breastfeedingnetwork.org.uk.

The final decision about whether or not a medication is safe to be taken by you while breastfeeding lies with your doctor who prescribes the medicine. What the prescriber also needs to consider is whether there are any medical conditions in your baby that would make him or her more vulnerable to any effects of the medication, how much of the drug reaches your baby, and how this amount compares to a dose that would be given directly to your baby if it is used to treat children.

So what can you do if you have been told by your doctor you need to stop breastfeeding because of the medication you are taking? Discuss with your doctor if there is another medication that can be prescribed, ask your doctor to refer to a prescriber knowledgeable in prescribing during lactation, or your doctor may consult “Hale’s Medication and Mothers’ Milk” which list all the characteristics of a medication and what information is known as to its safety during lactation.

Remember, you and your baby are unique in terms of your health and breastfeeding circumstances and each prescribing decision must be made individually.  It is important for the prescriber and you to weigh up the disadvantages for your baby of NOT getting breastmilk, what would happen if you do not receive your treatment, and how the medication may affect your baby.  

If you really need to stop breastfeeding because of your treatment, there are a few things to consider. In an ideal scenario, you can prepare for a breastfeeding break by building up stocks of expressed breast milk and freezing it so that you can feed your own milk to your baby rather than using formula. This will not only save you money, but also ensures that your baby continues to receive your liquid gold and all its protective goodness which formula is lacking. Another thing to consider is that if breastfeeding is interrupted even just for a day or two, your milk supply will be affected, unless you express milk to continue to stimulate the breasts to tell the body to continue making milk. Reducing feeds gradually, especially in the early weeks of breastfeeding, is vitally important to avoid engorgement in the mother.

In conclusion, try to get as much information as possible and don’t be afraid to ask for alternatives when faced with the possibility of having to stop breastfeeding when you are not really ready to do so.

If you would like further support or advice please feel free to contact Dorle. All of my clients and fans receive a free 15 minute telephone consultation with Dorle if you mention you got her details from me.

Have a great day!

Loving someone else's child

Adoption is a topic of many of my conversations as my husband and I have recently adopted a baby boy, David Zachary. Something I hear very often is, "I cannot love somebody else's child." 

David at almost three weeks old, on the day I took him from the hospital to the children's home.

I agree. I have several good friends whose children I have come to love and enjoy over the years. However, they are not my own children and I will most probably never feel about them as I do about my own. 

I photograph a lot of babies and children and I thoroughly love it. I enjoy them so much. They climb up into my lap and I play with them and cuddle and kiss them and I'm in heaven. But they are not my children and what I feel for them is fondness. I totally get not loving somebody else's child as my own.

David two days after he came home. He was almost four weeks old.

The thing is that David is not somebody else's child. He is mine. In June 2013 when my husband and I knew we wanted to adopt we started to think about our unborn son as just that, our son. 

We did not know when we would get a baby boy but we started to prepare. We got some clothes, nappies, wipes, wipes and even more wipes and I made linen for his cot. We spoke about him often and chose names. Whenever I had a quiet moment I would think about him. I wondered all the same things that I did while I was pregnant with my daughters. I wondered what he would look like, what kind of little person he would be, when he would arrive. In my heart I was pregnant, I was just not carrying him in my womb. (Thank goodness, pregnancy is tough!)

At four months old playing on our bed with his big, big sister who adores him.

So we love and adore David just like we do our biological children. I scored in that I did not have to carry him in my womb, endure mind numbing fatigue, nausea like no other, swollen feet, having to wee every ten minutes and then the unmentionable pain of giving birth. David is our son, no one else's and it is easy loving him.

Five months old and learning to sit. He can stay upright for a moment or two before he topples over. Aren't those the most industrial eyebrows you've ever seen?